Junior standing: 5 tips after two years of #Adulting

Hi! This is Frau and I am now into my third year as a member of the “real world” where adult things (uy, pun intended) happen. I don’t have a lot of experience yet but who’s to say I’m not qualified to give my own advices? No one! So, read on and hopefully some, if not all, helps you in one way or another. 🙂

 

Me when asked “y u give advice?”

Advice 1: You do you – there’s no point in trying to keep up with what is the “uso” if it doesn’t genuinely resonate with you and your identity. For example, I like listening to pop punk and to KPOP, too. It might seem like a weird combination of genres to some people but I don’t care, what matters is I enjoy both. So, guys, please…

read the books you like

listen to the music you like

do things that you like

try things that you’d like to try

Advice 2: Don’t be afraid to seek help when things get tough. I’m guilty of trying to do everything alone and keeping everything in for as long as I can. I did that for the last 21 years so why can’t I continue doing it, right? Well, my friends, I realized I can’t carry on with that habit because a. it’s not good for my mental health and b. I don’t know all the answers and other do. But for this point, I’m not just talking about mental struggles but all kinds of struggle. Feeling down lately? Talk to a friend, family member or a therapist (if you can afford one). Don’t know how to solve a problem at work? Ask a senior or a mentor. You get the idea! You can’t always do things alone and oftentimes, you don’t have to.

Advice 3: If you want relationships to work, put in the effort needed. To be honest, I’m not good at chatting people up online or even texting just to catch up so I reaaaaally need to work on this till now. Good thing my friends are quite low maintenance so they don’t always need to be constantly hanging out (hi friends, sorry for this and promise I’ll be better #peace). They say the people you are five years ago may not be the same people you are close with now but, if you work on maintaining communication, hanging out and whatnot, then who’s to say it won’t be a lasting bond?

Advice 4: Fail forward. We cannot always expect to do everything right but what we can be sure of is we will fail at some point. When these failures happen, one thing to remember is to stop wallowing in the failure part and start thinking about the learning. How you will apply what you learned from that experience so it won’t happen again? Or at least the next time it happens, you know what to do. Accept the fact that you failed – own it – but keep in mind that that failure has given you an insight on what you can do to move forward.

Advice 5: You don’t always have to be ON. Okay, okay, I know we live in the digital age and everything is on the Internet. But you know what, as much as I love the online world and everything it offers, it’s exhausting (or at least to me, it is). Constant scrolling through mobile apps is now everyone’s go-to exercise. Communication has become so convenient that people sometimes have no regard about personal space/ time and they expect everyone to be, too. I even feel like sending an SMS has become obsolete because hello, Frau, y u not uses Messenger just like everyone?

Guys, sometimes we need to unplug and notice the things happening in our immediate surroundings. Get in touch with the real world (don’t get philosophical with me on this) or if you’re not the type of person who needs time off, respect those who do.


So yeah, those are my tips for you millennials and non-millennials. Apply what you can and discard what you cannot. Welcome to the real world! #

So, what do you do?

Nobody gets what I do – or at least nobody over the age of 40. Whenever my parents, uncles, aunts and other relatives always ask me what I do or what my job is exactly, I can’t always give them a definite answer ’cause I can’t simplify it. One thing, though, that I’m sure about my job is that I’m into it.

Why do I like my job? It’s unlikely for a young professional to like their job, right?

Well, first off, I have flexible hours. I am not a morning person, I am a night owl in a world that wants everyone to operate like larks. So, I’m thankful that I can work till one in the morning and wake up at ten. My energy spikes at midnight can be utilized to do work.

Second, there’s not seniority. Sure, there are older people at our company but we treat each other equally. I can call 30 year-old workmates by their first name and newbies can call me by name – so not “Pinoy” of us.

Another reason is career growth. I always get told by my parents to switch jobs – go work for the government or a big corporation. I know they’re just looking out for me and they mean well, but I always give them a “NO”. I don’t want to work in a corporate setting and wait for years just to move up the management ladder. If I work hard and always do my best, I help can run two locations and that’s a big deal.

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I’m thankful that I have a job that challenges me everyday. Being one of the very few people running the back end operations of our company and sort-of managing one of our locations is no joke. Not a lot of companies would trust 21 year-olds with this kind of responsibility so I feel very lucky.

The future freaks me out (yes, that’s a MCS reference) but it also excites me. Here’s to being better and going bigger! #

The Day-off Currently Vol. 2

Reading
The Conjugal Dictatorship of Ferdinand and Imelda Marcos by Primitivo Mijares. I downloaded this last year since it was shared to the Filipino public but I’ve just gotten to reading it now. It’s very interesting especially for me since it’s an account of one of the dark times in Philippines history. Also, there are a lot of revisionists denying the abuses during that time so I’m curious as to what their reaction would be when and IF they read this book.

Writing

My end of the month report for February. I sound like a legit adult doing office work, don’t I? HAHAHAHAHA. Also, trying to remember what events and happenings I have this March since I have to put them up in my planner or else, I forget about them.

Listening

State Champs – The Finer Things. Try this out, guys!

Thinking

About what makes me happy and what’s next

Smelling

Nail polish, ’cause I applied some earlier

Wishing

For some clarity

Hoping

To figure out what path to take

Wearing

Blue tank top and black and white striped shorts

Loving

Happier podcast by Gretchen Rubin. Been listening to episodes while taking a bath and I must say, I feel happier after.

Wanting

Money. For everything I need.

Needing

Enough drive to pursue passion projects and alone time to ponder on my situation.

Feeling

Annoyed and slightly angry

Clicking

http://gretchenrubin.com/

The Day-off Currently Vol. 1

Hello! Before you get on with the post, just a little head’s up for future “Currently” posts. I have work on Sundays so I usually am too tired to write so I’m changing things up. Posts of this kind are now called “The Day-off Currently” ‘cause my days off are more interesting. That’s it.

Reading

I just finished a fiction book called The Hating Game so as of the moment I’m not reading anything. BUT! I have a pending book on my list, the one I talked about in the last edition (see, I forgot about it).

Writing

My end of the month report for February. I sound like a legit adult doing office work, don’t I? HAHAHAHAHA. Also, trying to remember what events and happenings I have this March since I have to put them up in my planner or else, I forget about them.

Listening

Currently playing Taeyeon’s first full-length album “My Voice”. She’s a KPOP singer and member of SNSD.

Thinking

Nothing in particular. Exactly at this moment, it’s: “What happened to We Are The In Crowd?”

Smelling

The lingering smell of white onion from the dinner I cooked earlier

Wishing

For continuous sunny days and strength when storms roll in

Hoping

To get a long vacation soon (away from life, maybe?)

Wearing

Grey sort-of cropped top and blue workout (?) shorts

Loving

The music video for Taeyeon’s single, “Fine”. Check it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHXUM-6a3dU

Wanting

Sensible sandals that I can wear to work or to ganaps

Needing

Enough drive to pursue passion projects

Feeling

Post-exercise bliss

Clicking

Posts on crush’s blog

More than a decade under the influence

My current music taste is a hodge-podge of different artists. If you listen to my playlist on Spotify, you’ll be up for a lot of surprises since it includes artists from Whitesnake to Run DMC to SNSD to Knuckle Puck.

Attending Influence Night then made me think: if I trace back to the artists that made me listen to the ones I have in my playlist today, who would these be? I thought a lot about the possible answers to this question and this is what I came up with.

  • Air Supply. Every Sunday is Air Supply day in our home. Others included in our Sunday tunes are Bee Gees, Firehouse, The Beatles and Bon Jovi. It is due to this family routine that I can probably sing along to almost every Air Supply song out there. Also, let me just say that even though I may not look like it, I do listen to classic rock.
  • Michael Learns to Rock. Me and my cousins used to gather around the TV and play a cd with all of MLTR’s music videos. One of the first 90’s bands that I listened to and will still occasionally put on to this day.
  • Eraserheads, Rivermaya, Callalily. I remember 2005-2008 as the years when OPM bands were the “uso” among the fifth graders and high schoolers. I still have my high school autograph project were most of my classmates wrote Kamikazee, Spongecola, etc as their favorite band. For me though, my 12-year-old self was already familiar with OPM since my older brothers listened to Rivermaya and Eraserheads.
  • Yellowcard, Boys Like Girls, Paramore. These bands mark my branching out into the pop punk genre — although many will argue that these bands were not really “pop punk”. I remember being one of the only two people in our senior class who listened to Yellowcard (the other one was Jessa). Enter college and I find out that a lot of the kids in my age group were actually listening to Yellowcard, they were just not from my town.
  • All Time Low. The very first song I listened to by ATL was Remembering Sunday but the song that made me seek out the band is Break Your Little Heart. From then on, I was a fan. ATL was the reason  I found out Hopeless Records’ youtube channel and watch other bands (THE WONDER YEARS!!).
  • Knuckle Puck. Third year into University and  I was already into pop punk by this time. During the 2010s there has been a revival of the genre, the so-called “Defend Pop Punk” movement. Lots of new school pop punk bands were popping into the scene. I was behind in all of this but luckily, a friend sent me a link to KP’s No Good. I admit, at first I found it “noisy” especially the shouting at the start but I guess it just takes some getting used to. I now actually enjoy KP and all the other bands such as Seaway, Real Friends and State Champs to name a few of the popular ones.
  • Super Junior, SNSD. Yes, I do, in fact, listen to KPOP. The very first video I saw was Super Junior’s “It’s You” and I was intrigued. I did not – and still don’t quite – understand Korean but their dances and crazy concepts are enough to keep me entertained. But now, I mostly only check out SNSD and their members’ solo debuts and keep away from new groups. I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole again. Hehe.

My tip if you want to listen to new artists that sound similar to your influences is to try online radios. Even before Spotify had stations, playlists by genre and artist radio, there were already websites such as Jango.com that were doing that for me. Lucky for us, we now have these music apps on our phones that make music streaming and downloading easy. Also, talk to your friends who listen to the same or another genre/ artist and trust their suggestions.

What’s on your playlists right now? Comment below and I’ll check it out. 🙂

Loves of my life

So, yesterday was Valentine’s (Valentines?) day and in honor of the spirit of declaring one’s love, I am giving a shoutout to the things and people that give me love or that I really love.

I love…

  • My family, of course. Even if they are a hard bunch of people to deal with, my family and extended relatives are always the people who make me feel loved any time of the year.
  • Gegen and Frams. These two are my siblings; one is my real sibling and the other a sister-from-another mother. Yes, I know I just mentioned my family in the first bullet but these two deserve their own spot.
  • Happy crushes. You know, those innocent (CHAR) crushes that everyone has, or not. For me, my “happy crushes” is just that – they make me happy and yes, kilig. I don’t want to be with them though, IRL. That would probably ruin the whole fantasy. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

In love with…

  • Pop punk love songs. Of course, this genre is known for writing about girls and relationships so there are a handful of songs that would make any girl feel giddy. I mean, why bother getting a boyfriend when I have Derek Discanio to serenade me, right? My all-time favorite kilig State Champs song is “Leave You in the Dark”. Some of my other faves are Box Car Racer – There Is, All Time Low – Painting Flowers and Neck Deep – A Part of Me.
  • Korean dramas. Yes, kinain na ako ng sistema. I am totally in love with good k-dramas and the characters that are in it. There is nothing like a good cry or laugh brought by a solid episode, whether it be a light-hearted romance or a time-travel, historical love story.

I guess that’s all. XOXO

The Sunday Currently Vol. 4

Reading

There’s this book that was a present from my boss called The Winning Attitude by John C. Maxwell. It’s probably one of the very, very few self-help books I own. I’ve actually been enjoying the book which is a surprise since I only reserve that joy when reading fiction.

Writing

Rather than writing, I’m doing some admin work for our Cebu site. Just inputting the latest batch of reimbursements on an Excel document, ynow, boring stuff.

Listening

My personal playlist on Spotify is in shuffle mode so right now, it’s Jimmy Eat World – The Middle. Oh, and the background noise of the electric fan swinging it’s head from left to right.

Thinking

… about the things that I have to do or get done by tomorrow. I’m plotting my schedule later and set reminders because I am a forgetful person. RIP, memory.

Smelling

Nothing bad, which is really good. 😉

Wishing

I’ve been clouded by doubts lately so right now what I’m wishing for is clarity – of the mind and of the soul. Maybe some soul-searching is in order.

Hoping

I’m hoping to finish these backlog of admin work by Tuesday so that I’ll have some time for delayed personal projects.

Wearing

A sky blue Adidas shirt and some really cheap pambahay shorts that I bought from a local mart.

Loving

  • Nike’s Training Club app
  • This Is: TAEYEON playlist on Spotify
  • As It Is’ single, “okay”

Wanting

A Bazooka Rocks 2017 Day 2 VIP ticket because it’s fcking State Champs that is playing that day.

Needing

More than 24 hours in a day

Feeling

“I’ll be just fine”

Clicking

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