I just started reading Demian by Hermann Hesse. I found out about it because I’ve watching a lot of BTS-related videos lately. Some of its passages are read throughout the trailer videos for their Wings album and those got me intrigued.
Aside from this post, nothing. Ug, I need to write more often or journal.
Citizen’s entire discography on Spotify. Stoked for their upcoming album! Listen to them here: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0znuUIjvP0LXEslfaq0Nor
“How do I recover from this sickness as soon as possible?”
Cheese flavor from the chips that I’m currently eating
To get some rest soon
Shorts and sky blue shirt
To feel genuinely happy and stress-free
A break, maybe?
I feel like shit. I know this is because I treated my body like shit for the past few weeks.
“I’m not growing up I’m just burning out And I stepped in line to walk amongst the dead”
Burnout, Green Day
Work has been hard lately and at times I feel like the world is punishing me. Being an introvert, the biggest struggle that has been recurring in my life after graduation is the fact that the line between work hours and personal time is blurred. I get that people development not only happens when you and your colleagues are at the workplace; that it also needs to happen outside of it. But for me, giving away most of my time to other people sucks the life out of my own self.
I do understand and accept the fact that I am part of a start-up company that is growing and that I need to be hands-on, I also know that I need to pause even for just a bit – for myself, for my soul. After all, I am not (and no human is) capable of working like a dog for days on end without crashing, dead-tired.
The reasons above are probably the reason why pockets of silence and moments of pause are so precious to me these days. In the stage of life that I’m currently living in, these have become rare and welcomed surprises that saved me from burning out.
Hi! This is Frau and I am now into my third year as a member of the “real world” where adult things (uy, pun intended) happen. I don’t have a lot of experience yet but who’s to say I’m not qualified to give my own advices? No one! So, read on and hopefully some, if not all, helps you in one way or another. 🙂
Advice 1: You do you – there’s no point in trying to keep up with what is the “uso” if it doesn’t genuinely resonate with you and your identity. For example, I like listening to pop punk and to KPOP, too. It might seem like a weird combination of genres to some people but I don’t care, what matters is I enjoy both. So, guys, please…
read the books you like
listen to the music you like
do things that you like
try things that you’d like to try
Advice 2: Don’t be afraid to seek help when things get tough. I’m guilty of trying to do everything alone and keeping everything in for as long as I can. I did that for the last 21 years so why can’t I continue doing it, right? Well, my friends, I realized I can’t carry on with that habit because a. it’s not good for my mental health and b. I don’t know all the answers and other do. But for this point, I’m not just talking about mental struggles but all kinds of struggle. Feeling down lately? Talk to a friend, family member or a therapist (if you can afford one). Don’t know how to solve a problem at work? Ask a senior or a mentor. You get the idea! You can’t always do things alone and oftentimes, you don’t have to.
Advice 3: If you want relationships to work, put in the effort needed. To be honest, I’m not good at chatting people up online or even texting just to catch up so I reaaaaally need to work on this till now. Good thing my friends are quite low maintenance so they don’t always need to be constantly hanging out (hi friends, sorry for this and promise I’ll be better #peace). They say the people you are five years ago may not be the same people you are close with now but, if you work on maintaining communication, hanging out and whatnot, then who’s to say it won’t be a lasting bond?
Advice 4: Fail forward. We cannot always expect to do everything right but what we can be sure of is we will fail at some point. When these failures happen, one thing to remember is to stop wallowing in the failure part and start thinking about the learning. How you will apply what you learned from that experience so it won’t happen again? Or at least the next time it happens, you know what to do. Accept the fact that you failed – own it – but keep in mind that that failure has given you an insight on what you can do to move forward.
Advice 5: You don’t always have to be ON. Okay, okay, I know we live in the digital age and everything is on the Internet. But you know what, as much as I love the online world and everything it offers, it’s exhausting (or at least to me, it is). Constant scrolling through mobile apps is now everyone’s go-to exercise. Communication has become so convenient that people sometimes have no regard about personal space/ time and they expect everyone to be, too. I even feel like sending an SMS has become obsolete because hello, Frau, y u not uses Messenger just like everyone?
Guys, sometimes we need to unplug and notice the things happening in our immediate surroundings. Get in touch with the real world (don’t get philosophical with me on this) or if you’re not the type of person who needs time off, respect those who do.
So yeah, those are my tips for you millennials and non-millennials. Apply what you can and discard what you cannot. Welcome to the real world! #
Nobody gets what I do – or at least nobody over the age of 40. Whenever my parents, uncles, aunts and other relatives always ask me what I do or what my job is exactly, I can’t always give them a definite answer ’cause I can’t simplify it. One thing, though, that I’m sure about my job is that I’m into it.
Why do I like my job? It’s unlikely for a young professional to like their job, right?
Well, first off, I have flexible hours. I am not a morning person, I am a night owl in a world that wants everyone to operate like larks. So, I’m thankful that I can work till one in the morning and wake up at ten. My energy spikes at midnight can be utilized to do work.
Second, there’s not seniority. Sure, there are older people at our company but we treat each other equally. I can call 30 year-old workmates by their first name and newbies can call me by name – so not “Pinoy” of us.
Another reason is career growth. I always get told by my parents to switch jobs – go work for the government or a big corporation. I know they’re just looking out for me and they mean well, but I always give them a “NO”. I don’t want to work in a corporate setting and wait for years just to move up the management ladder. If I work hard and always do my best, I help can run two locations and that’s a big deal.
I’m thankful that I have a job that challenges me everyday. Being one of the very few people running the back end operations of our company and sort-of managing one of our locations is no joke. Not a lot of companies would trust 21 year-olds with this kind of responsibility so I feel very lucky.
The future freaks me out (yes, that’s a MCS reference) but it also excites me. Here’s to being better and going bigger! #
The Conjugal Dictatorship of Ferdinand and Imelda Marcos by Primitivo Mijares. I downloaded this last year since it was shared to the Filipino public but I’ve just gotten to reading it now. It’s very interesting especially for me since it’s an account of one of the dark times in Philippines history. Also, there are a lot of revisionists denying the abuses during that time so I’m curious as to what their reaction would be when and IF they read this book.
My end of the month report for February. I sound like a legit adult doing office work, don’t I? HAHAHAHAHA. Also, trying to remember what events and happenings I have this March since I have to put them up in my planner or else, I forget about them.
State Champs – The Finer Things. Try this out, guys!
About what makes me happy and what’s next
Nail polish, ’cause I applied some earlier
For some clarity
To figure out what path to take
Blue tank top and black and white striped shorts
Happier podcast by Gretchen Rubin. Been listening to episodes while taking a bath and I must say, I feel happier after.
Money. For everything I need.
Enough drive to pursue passion projects and alone time to ponder on my situation.