Junior standing: 5 tips after two years of #Adulting

Hi! This is Frau and I am now into my third year as a member of the “real world” where adult things (uy, pun intended) happen. I don’t have a lot of experience yet but who’s to say I’m not qualified to give my own advices? No one! So, read on and hopefully some, if not all, helps you in one way or another. 🙂

 

Me when asked “y u give advice?”

Advice 1: You do you – there’s no point in trying to keep up with what is the “uso” if it doesn’t genuinely resonate with you and your identity. For example, I like listening to pop punk and to KPOP, too. It might seem like a weird combination of genres to some people but I don’t care, what matters is I enjoy both. So, guys, please…

read the books you like

listen to the music you like

do things that you like

try things that you’d like to try

Advice 2: Don’t be afraid to seek help when things get tough. I’m guilty of trying to do everything alone and keeping everything in for as long as I can. I did that for the last 21 years so why can’t I continue doing it, right? Well, my friends, I realized I can’t carry on with that habit because a. it’s not good for my mental health and b. I don’t know all the answers and other do. But for this point, I’m not just talking about mental struggles but all kinds of struggle. Feeling down lately? Talk to a friend, family member or a therapist (if you can afford one). Don’t know how to solve a problem at work? Ask a senior or a mentor. You get the idea! You can’t always do things alone and oftentimes, you don’t have to.

Advice 3: If you want relationships to work, put in the effort needed. To be honest, I’m not good at chatting people up online or even texting just to catch up so I reaaaaally need to work on this till now. Good thing my friends are quite low maintenance so they don’t always need to be constantly hanging out (hi friends, sorry for this and promise I’ll be better #peace). They say the people you are five years ago may not be the same people you are close with now but, if you work on maintaining communication, hanging out and whatnot, then who’s to say it won’t be a lasting bond?

Advice 4: Fail forward. We cannot always expect to do everything right but what we can be sure of is we will fail at some point. When these failures happen, one thing to remember is to stop wallowing in the failure part and start thinking about the learning. How you will apply what you learned from that experience so it won’t happen again? Or at least the next time it happens, you know what to do. Accept the fact that you failed – own it – but keep in mind that that failure has given you an insight on what you can do to move forward.

Advice 5: You don’t always have to be ON. Okay, okay, I know we live in the digital age and everything is on the Internet. But you know what, as much as I love the online world and everything it offers, it’s exhausting (or at least to me, it is). Constant scrolling through mobile apps is now everyone’s go-to exercise. Communication has become so convenient that people sometimes have no regard about personal space/ time and they expect everyone to be, too. I even feel like sending an SMS has become obsolete because hello, Frau, y u not uses Messenger just like everyone?

Guys, sometimes we need to unplug and notice the things happening in our immediate surroundings. Get in touch with the real world (don’t get philosophical with me on this) or if you’re not the type of person who needs time off, respect those who do.


So yeah, those are my tips for you millennials and non-millennials. Apply what you can and discard what you cannot. Welcome to the real world! #

So, what do you do?

Nobody gets what I do – or at least nobody over the age of 40. Whenever my parents, uncles, aunts and other relatives always ask me what I do or what my job is exactly, I can’t always give them a definite answer ’cause I can’t simplify it. One thing, though, that I’m sure about my job is that I’m into it.

Why do I like my job? It’s unlikely for a young professional to like their job, right?

Well, first off, I have flexible hours. I am not a morning person, I am a night owl in a world that wants everyone to operate like larks. So, I’m thankful that I can work till one in the morning and wake up at ten. My energy spikes at midnight can be utilized to do work.

Second, there’s not seniority. Sure, there are older people at our company but we treat each other equally. I can call 30 year-old workmates by their first name and newbies can call me by name – so not “Pinoy” of us.

Another reason is career growth. I always get told by my parents to switch jobs – go work for the government or a big corporation. I know they’re just looking out for me and they mean well, but I always give them a “NO”. I don’t want to work in a corporate setting and wait for years just to move up the management ladder. If I work hard and always do my best, I help can run two locations and that’s a big deal.

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I’m thankful that I have a job that challenges me everyday. Being one of the very few people running the back end operations of our company and sort-of managing one of our locations is no joke. Not a lot of companies would trust 21 year-olds with this kind of responsibility so I feel very lucky.

The future freaks me out (yes, that’s a MCS reference) but it also excites me. Here’s to being better and going bigger! #

The Day-off Currently Vol. 2

Reading
The Conjugal Dictatorship of Ferdinand and Imelda Marcos by Primitivo Mijares. I downloaded this last year since it was shared to the Filipino public but I’ve just gotten to reading it now. It’s very interesting especially for me since it’s an account of one of the dark times in Philippines history. Also, there are a lot of revisionists denying the abuses during that time so I’m curious as to what their reaction would be when and IF they read this book.

Writing

My end of the month report for February. I sound like a legit adult doing office work, don’t I? HAHAHAHAHA. Also, trying to remember what events and happenings I have this March since I have to put them up in my planner or else, I forget about them.

Listening

State Champs – The Finer Things. Try this out, guys!

Thinking

About what makes me happy and what’s next

Smelling

Nail polish, ’cause I applied some earlier

Wishing

For some clarity

Hoping

To figure out what path to take

Wearing

Blue tank top and black and white striped shorts

Loving

Happier podcast by Gretchen Rubin. Been listening to episodes while taking a bath and I must say, I feel happier after.

Wanting

Money. For everything I need.

Needing

Enough drive to pursue passion projects and alone time to ponder on my situation.

Feeling

Annoyed and slightly angry

Clicking

http://gretchenrubin.com/

What’s up?

So it’s been a year and four months out of college, how’s the experience going? Here’s a rundown of the things or events that happened.

  • Volunteer work for APEC

In my 2015 recap post, I talked briefly about my experience being part of the Operations committee for the APEC Summit in Cebu. Me and my friend, Kaye were fresh out of university and we kind of didn’t want to get into the “real world” yet. When we found out that the local/ provincial government was looking for volunteers for the meetings to be held in Cebu, we jumped at the opportunity. We got in but in different committees, I was in logistics and Kaye was in registration. We got to stay at the most expensive hotels in Cebu, eat free food and most of the work we do are easy. The experience, as a whole, was a fun one.

  • Unemployment

After APEC, I was still not ready to find a job so I moved back home… to my mom’s basement (no hahahaha we don’t have a basement). I was unemployed for two months. My excuse was that I was finding direction and doing all the things I wasn’t able to do in college. And I did do all the things I was putting aside during college; I read a lot of fiction, learned how to do handlettering and started this blog.

  • Job

Tired of being unemployed, I took to the Internet to find a job. I was not even thinking about getting the “perfect” job for me, I was ready to take on anything. So, I stumbled into a Facebook group where jobs in the development sector are posted, scanned the posts, sent a ton of emails and got only a handful of replies. In the end, I ended up with a job as a fundraiser. I didn’t even know that this was a legit job where you get paid but I said yes when they told me I got hired.

My first week, like most first weeks of getting into something totally new, was full of adjustments and doubts. Can I really do this? Why did I even study Political Science if I’m not going to make a living out of it? I wanted out. But after getting past that first week, I was willing to give it three months. Three months turned into nine, now I’m a senior with a team consisting of two other fundraisers.

  • Personal

Nothing much has happened in my personal life or idk, maybe there’s been some changes. I got new friends from work that are all pretty much good people. Like most people in their 20s, I struggle with responsibilities like keeping up with my finances, getting insurance, etc. I am also doing my best to maintain my work/ life balance, although I sometimes sacrifice time with others for work (but I’m working on not doing that). Introvert time is also very important so on some off days, I just hangout by myself and do what I always do which is drink milktea/ coffee and read books or try to doodle.

Oh, I got chicken pox a week before this post. I was underwhelmed because I feel like I didn’t get the full chicken pox experience. I only had a few spots, no itching or fever. But to be honest, I am thankful that I got by easy.

What lies ahead?

I don’t have any idea what lies in the future. I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do and set my priorities. Hey, I’m still young so I have a ton of time to figure shit out (jk, I need to find direction before the year ends, I think).